An African proverb states that ‘It takes a village to raise a child’. This is one of the simplest and vital mindsets families and childminders should have when it comes to looking after children.
Ensuring that your childcare provider follows your family rules, routines and is aware of pertinent information ensures that everyone is in sync, and minimizes confusion, strife, and frustrations on each end of the triangle, the parents, the childcare provider and most importantly, the child.
Often you find mishaps between parents, childminders, and children themselves stems from miscommunication. Communication between all ensures there are no bumps in the road during your workdays and between busy schedules.
6 effective tools to use when communicating with your childcare provider:
- Ensure you have provided a clear set of expectations to your childminder, this will help guide them on how to interact, plan and carry out daily schedules. Also take into account their expectations; it’s frightening how many families do not take into account the childminders expecations. Being constantly hit or bitten by a child does eventually become tiresome, not to mention frustrating, especially if nothing it done to adjust undesirable behaviour
- Make sure you provide clear instructions. Everyone gets busy and can forget adjustments in schedules, events or important dates. An easy way to ensure everyone is on the same page is to prepare weekly or monthly notes/schedules
- Set boundaries for your family and childcare provider. This means set up what ‘rules’ are to be adhered to while in your home. That includes how you talk to each other, what is considered acceptable behaviours by both parents, child and the childminder. Children are sponges and learn behaviours by watching others. This also means that everyone knows what to expect and there are no additional tantrums or frustrations
- Please, please don’t constantly change your mind! You want your toddler to eat independantly, then you feed them. You want your child to stop watching TV while eating but then you cave in and switch it on. This is confusing for your childminder who follows your directives but also can cause additonal behavioural difficulties in your child. Adjustments are normal, but decide on a loose pattern for yourself and your childminder and stick to it
- Work as a team, schedule a quick catch up period once a day or once a week with your childcare provider- this gives you the opportunity to set goals, check on progress and problem solve if needed.